Vulnerability: Four Pillars of Coregulation, Part 2
When you expose your inner world, you invite the other person to step in your direction, which they often do, feeling pulled to respond in kind.
Authenticity: Four Pillars of Coregulation, Part 1
It means being true to yourself—living in alignment with your values, beliefs, and desires rather than conforming to external expectations.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 3: Dorsal Vagal
Men with a sexual addiction use sex, porn and masturbation to pull themselves out of a pit of despair, out of a state of dysregulation and shut down. This pattern then gets wired in the brain.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 2: Fight-or-Flight
Sex became a way of soothing the nervous system and coming out of elevated dysregulation. Sex became relief. They learned that “acting out” could calm the body and even lull them to sleep.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 1: Ventral Vagal
When your nervous system deems your surroundings safe, you move about life with relative ease, getting things done, interacting with people as you need and want to, and feeling pretty good overall.