Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 2: Fight-or-Flight
Sex became a way of soothing the nervous system and coming out of elevated dysregulation. Sex became relief. They learned that “acting out” could calm the body and even lull them to sleep.
How Does a Sex Addiction Develop?
Is it due to a high sex drive? What about toxic masculinity? Is it from living in a hyper-sexualized culture? To understand how sexual addiction develops we should talk about the family of origin and big-T and little-t traumas.
6 (More) Partner Responses After Sexual Betrayal
If you have sexually betrayed your partner due to stepping outside the relationship in some way, listen carefully, you are both lover and abuser. One person, two identities.
5 Partner Responses After Sexual Betrayal
For her, it could manifest as not feeling good enough, attractive enough, sexy enough, that some deep flaw is irreversible and permanent and that this was the reason you acted out in the first place.
What to Do When Your Wife Is Triggered by Your Past
Let the chips fall where they may. And if it’s appropriate, be curious. You can ask a follow-up question. Be open to answering a question she may have. Allow the moment to unfold.
What (Not) To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered by Your Past
Train yourself to “see” her pain. It’s easy to see the anger and rage and emotional storm coming your way. It takes discernment to see what she isn’t showing you, her wounded and broken heart.