Black and White Thinking
The left brain loves to categorize life into opposites, black or white, right or left, up or down. But when the complicated parts of life get forced into either/or categories, results can get weird and destructive.
Forging Core Values (With Examples)
Have you ever considered the principles that you want to govern your life? Consider this: No one stumbles into success. Or, there are no accidental saints.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 3: Dorsal Vagal
Men with a sexual addiction use sex, porn and masturbation to pull themselves out of a pit of despair, out of a state of dysregulation and shut down. This pattern then gets wired in the brain.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 2: Fight-or-Flight
Sex became a way of soothing the nervous system and coming out of elevated dysregulation. Sex became relief. They learned that “acting out” could calm the body and even lull them to sleep.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 1: Ventral Vagal
When your nervous system deems your surroundings safe, you move about life with relative ease, getting things done, interacting with people as you need and want to, and feeling pretty good overall.
Getting Organized for Recovery (With Examples)
It can be a good idea to clean up and organize your life. Your environment matters. Like breathing pollutant air to your lungs, living in chaos and stress in your personal life erodes your mental health and recovery.
How Does a Sex Addiction Develop?
Is it due to a high sex drive? What about toxic masculinity? Is it from living in a hyper-sexualized culture? To understand how sexual addiction develops we should talk about the family of origin and big-T and little-t traumas.
You Need a Purpose
Without a sense of purpose life can feel like a bag of sand you drag around behind you. You have less energy and less inspiration. A strong sexual sobriety and recovery require purpose!