Vulnerability: Four Pillars of Coregulation, Part 2
When you expose your inner world, you invite the other person to step in your direction, which they often do, feeling pulled to respond in kind.
Authenticity: Four Pillars of Coregulation, Part 1
It means being true to yourself—living in alignment with your values, beliefs, and desires rather than conforming to external expectations.
Black and White Thinking
The left brain loves to categorize life into opposites, black or white, right or left, up or down. But when the complicated parts of life get forced into either/or categories, results can get weird and destructive.
Crappy Behavior Is Eroding Your Relationship
Crappy behavior can be minor, but if we have crappiness spread out over the whole of our lives, it’s like death by a thousand cuts. Behaving badly adds up.
Listening Without Fixing
“Your job isn’t to fix something, but to genuinely take in and resonate with what she’s feeling.” That’s your job. Save the fixing, if that’s what you enjoy doing, for the house and the cars and the yard.
When Your Inner Child Takes Over
We have younger parts of ourselves within us. And if we aren’t careful, they get triggered and take over. Learn to embrace your inner kid without letting him run the show.
“I’m Being Reactive”
Being reactive with your loved ones, as a man, can cause serious damage, fast. Robert Masters has deceptively simple advice for you. Try it if you find yourself consistently hurting your closest relationships.
Your Wife Wants You to Lead the Healing Process
Wives often find themselves leading post-discovery, but she does not want to! Give her the feeling that you are taking this seriously, that you are doing everything necessary to help your relationship heal and grow.