Black and White Thinking
The left brain loves to categorize life into opposites, black or white, right or left, up or down. But when the complicated parts of life get forced into either/or categories, results can get weird and destructive.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 3: Dorsal Vagal
Men with a sexual addiction use sex, porn and masturbation to pull themselves out of a pit of despair, out of a state of dysregulation and shut down. This pattern then gets wired in the brain.
Sex Addiction and the Nervous System, Part 2: Fight-or-Flight
Sex became a way of soothing the nervous system and coming out of elevated dysregulation. Sex became relief. They learned that “acting out” could calm the body and even lull them to sleep.