Your Wife Wants You to Lead the Healing Process
Wives often find themselves leading post-discovery, but she does not want to! Give her the feeling that you are taking this seriously, that you are doing everything necessary to help your relationship heal and grow.
6 (More) Partner Responses After Sexual Betrayal
If you have sexually betrayed your partner due to stepping outside the relationship in some way, listen carefully, you are both lover and abuser. One person, two identities.
5 Partner Responses After Sexual Betrayal
For her, it could manifest as not feeling good enough, attractive enough, sexy enough, that some deep flaw is irreversible and permanent and that this was the reason you acted out in the first place.
What to Do When Your Wife Is Triggered by Your Past
Let the chips fall where they may. And if it’s appropriate, be curious. You can ask a follow-up question. Be open to answering a question she may have. Allow the moment to unfold.
What (Not) To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered by Your Past
Train yourself to “see” her pain. It’s easy to see the anger and rage and emotional storm coming your way. It takes discernment to see what she isn’t showing you, her wounded and broken heart.